A Lesson I Learned from a Boy Sitting Alone at Lunch in Senior Year of High School

I once knew a boy (I’ll call him Zach for the purpose of this post) with autism who was in my fifth grade class. This boy always had issues making friends and connecting with people like the other kids in my class. I remember learning about his autism in class and beginning to understand how he perceives the world.

A few days ago, the seniors at my high school had a special day dedicated to showing off what their post-high school plans are. After listening to multiple presentations and to a motivational speaker, the seniors were invited to go eat in the gym. When we flooded in, we were welcomed with an abundance of catered food and lots of large tables for groups to sit at.

I sat down with a few of my friends at a table and looked around the giant space. As I was scanning the large room and noticing all of the different friend groups sitting at every table, I noticed Zach sitting by himself, looking around the room as if he was looking for someone.

I waited and waited to see if he would find a group of friends to sit by or if a teacher would approach him. Sadly, neither of these things occurred. My first thought was to do something about it since nobody else was doing anything. But like everyone else, I tried to cave to the voice in my head telling me to be like everyone else and ignore Zach. After contemplating what I will do for a little, I finally burst and informed the people sitting closest to me that Zach is sitting alone and looks really lonely.

What I thought would happen is that somebody would suggest to invite him to our table. This is not what happened. Instead, after repeatedly bringing up the fact that Zach was sitting alone, I realized that nobody was going to do anything about it. People tried to justify their lack of responsibility to a fellow classmate with excuses such as Zach got to the gym before everyone else or that Zach could easily go sit with people. After explaining why they could care less, they continued their conversations.

Eventually two of my friends sitting on the other end of the table overheard me and to my relief, they immediately asked where Zach was sitting. Although they asked me a few times if they should invite him now or after we get our food, they decided to get up and invite Zach over to our table. I watched as Zach’s desperate expression changed when my two friends approached him and asked if he wants to sit by us.  Zach immediately got up and followed the two girls over to our table. I greeted him right away and asked him if he remembered me from fifth grade. To my surprise, he did! There were multiple kids from my fifth grade class that I wasn’t friends with who didn’t remember me, however Zach did.

Although I felt a lot better that he wasn’t sitting or eating alone anymore, I couldn’t get over the fact that people just did not care. That is why I am writing this post. To be honest, I am not even any better then my friends who didn’t care that Zach was sitting alone because I did not immediately get up and do the right thing by myself. I feel horrible that I sat around and asked others for their opinion before finding two friends who were willing to extend an invitation to Zach.

The lesson I learned from this whole situation is that if you see something and know you should do the right thing, then do it. Not only will you feel good about yourself, but your good deed could brighten someones day or help them somehow. Don’t look to others for approval and you shouldn’t care if you stand out of the crowd. Be an independent thinker and do what you believe in and what you think is right. Don’t rely on others or expect anything of them. If you wait around for others to help you do something good, then the world will never be a better place. Take action, don’t just sit quietly and be like everyone else.

I hope you have a great week and find something good that you can do for another person!

Miri

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A Lesson I Learned from a Boy Sitting Alone at Lunch in Senior Year of High School

Find Your Style Through Minimalism

Imagine a closet with only your favorite clothes and a room with less stuff.

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Minimalism is all about owning only what is useful to you. I took this concept and decided to completely re-do my closet. I have recently found it very difficult to simply wake up in the morning and put together an outfit in less than five minutes. I would look at my mess of clothes and only see clothes that I don’t feel comfortable in, that I don’t feel confident in, or that I simply don’t like.

I was tired of waiting for college to pick out the clothes that I actually like and take them with me. First, I went through every single item in my closet and sorted my clothes into three categories: keep, toss, or maybe. “Keep” means I wear the clothing item often and I love it. “Toss” means I have not worn it in a very long time and I won’t miss it. “Maybe” means I don’t quite love it but I tend to wear it often. I put the “maybes” away in my closet to see if I would reach for them. If I didn’t reach for them then I would eventually toss them.

After I was finished I was left with only the clothes that I actually wear and love. I also had way more space and my room just seemed cleaner and not as cluttered anymore. Since it used to be difficult for me to dig through all of my clothes and find an outfit, I would always try to pick out my outfit the night before. However after donating the “tosses” and organizing my closet, I woke up the next morning and picked out an outfit in one minute. It was so easy to just look in my closet and see only everything that I like.

I am not suggesting to go through extreme minimalism and only leave yourself with the clothes that are useful to you because then you don’t get to have a variety of options. I chose to use some concepts of minimalism to decrease the size of my wardrobe and have only all of my staples and pieces that I love to wear left in my closet.

By being really honest with yourself and deciding what clothes you actually wear and enjoy, you will start to figure out your style. You will find find that putting together outfits and feeling confident in them will be so much easier. Not only was this process a magical de-stresser but it also saves so much time and is definitely a great way to help you find a personal style!

Have a fantastic week! Let me know if you decide to do this or have done this!

Miri 

Find Your Style Through Minimalism

My Favorite Fall Trends!!

 

The first fall trend that I am obsessed with is mini skirts! They have made a come back from the 90s with people wearing a variety of different skirts such as pocket skirts, jean skirts, and high-waisted skirts. These are awesome for showing off your legs and overall look really great paired with a sweater or crop top.

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Another skirt trend I love for the fall is the pencil skirt. Pencil skirts of all kinds flatter all body types and can be dressed up and dressed down. While many pencil skirts are made out of thin fabric, you can also find cozy knitted pencil skirts that function better for chilly weather.

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Boyfriend jeans are another very trendy item for fall. They look so laid back, cool, and are super comfy!

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My last favorite is the turtleneck crop top. This top is a little bit odd because its knit and sleeveless; therefore people normally don’t know how to wear it for days that are chilly. However, this problem is easily solved because it looks really cute under a cardigan or jacket! I prefer the long sleeve turtleneck crop top that looks amazing with anything that is high waisted.

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Tell me what your favorite trend for fall is!

Thank you for reading!

-Miri

My Favorite Fall Trends!!

My Pictures of Italian Window Displays

While walking around Rome, Florence, Venice, and other beautiful Italian cities I took pictures of these amazing window displays. Enjoy!

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-Miri xx

My Pictures of Italian Window Displays

Style Observations from my Trip to Italy

Hello lovely readers!

I just got back from my trip to Italy and I wanted to share some of my fashion observations from there. I don’t have many because I didn’t get to go to Milan, but I hope you find the ones I do have interesting.

I learned that Italians love blue mirror lens sunglasses. I was wearing the ones I brought from America most of the time and was amazed to see many people of both genders twinning with me. These sunglasses are not nearly as popular in America as they are in Italy. Printed slouch pants are also very in right now. They are sold everywhere at a variety of cheap prices in Italy in many different prints and colors. Women don’t really wear shorts in Italy, so these pants are perfect for them in the summer because they are light and comfortable. They do look a little bit like pajama pants so they are only worn casually. Men were really into their pants in Italy. They were sporting either cropped pants, drop crotch pants, or cuffed pants.

Thank you for reading,

Miri xx

Style Observations from my Trip to Italy

Why are pineapples so trendy?

I think it’s pretty funny what goes into style sometimes. Somehow a fruit made it onto countless items for both genders such as sunglasses, earrings, shirts, dresses, shorts, pants… you name it! (By the way: I call dibs on being the first one to determine that the watermelon trend is next!) My guess as to why pineapples became so popular is because they remind people of summer and exotic places like Hawaii. The crown of the pineapple looks similar to the leaves of a palm tree which is also another popular print this season. People love the look of anything tropical and happy for summer which is why the yellow color of the pineapple is so appealing to people. Pineapples are more then just a yummy fruit, they are also a symbol of hospitality and welcome. Leave me a comment on why you think this unexpected fashion trend became so popular!

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Thank you for reading!

P.S.- Follow this awesome twitter account, it’s all about pineapples! https://twitter.com/basicpineapple

Miri xx

Why are pineapples so trendy?

Prom Dress Finds Under $200!!!

Hello lovelies,

It is that time of the year again; prom! Prom is when a girl is asked by a boy to a dance at her high school and gets to wear a beautiful dress and have her makeup, nails, and hair done. It can be difficult to find the perfect dress, but have no fear, I have found some gorgeous dresses that you might like!

I love this light pink dress because the minimal details make it look simple and polished yet the dress still looks appropriate for a fancy night like prom. This cute dress look great with jewelry and silver or nude heels.

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http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=f21&Category=dress&ProductID=2002247977&VariantID=

This is also a simple dress but the back of it is what really makes the dress a unique one.

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Clearly you are getting the point that I love when the back of a dress is interesting. This dress is perfect for a girly girl because of the giant bow which I think looks so awesome. People will definitely remember this fun dress.

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=f21&Category=dress&ProductID=2049259017&VariantID=

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http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/soprano-bow-back-fit-flare-dress/3949607?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=1000

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http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/hailey-by-adrianna-papell-shirred-chiffon-strapless-gown/3922716?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=Cornflower&resultback=1900

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This black dress is great for a girl who has edgy style. You don’t have to wear a colorful dress with sparkles. You can express yourself however you want and wear something that fits your personal style. I love the black color for this dress with the amazing back. Pull the look together with red lipstick and a pair of black heels.

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/a-drea-autumn-strapless-gown-juniors/3942371?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=3200

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http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/topshop-halter-skater-dress/4030465?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=7100

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http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_beaded-keyhole-halter-dress-with-open-back-a15731_sale-prom-dresses

May the odds be ever in your favor for finding a perfect dress!

-Miri xx

Prom Dress Finds Under $200!!!